Long Live the Queen. The Queen is Dead

Mattie Person-Brown
Mattie Lee Person-Brown
Nov 19, 1940 – Oct 23, 2020

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,   
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

– excerpt from IF by Rudyard Kipling
Somedays by IvySoul Robinson
Long Live the Queen. The Queen is Dead
A tribute to my Mother

by Kendall F. Person

The understanding that death is inevitable, feels like a wasted comprehension. Upon enduring its heartbreaking intention, its seems foolish now to have believed, I could have ever been prepared.

On October 23, 2020 just shy of her 80th birthday, my Mother passed away, And while I wish she was still with me, I take solace in knowing, she has been freed from the external pain of her chronic physical ailments; and released from the taunting misery of her  mental affliction known as dementia.

Exhausted from the strain of an epic, never-ending political campaign; trying to stay safe while an unchecked pathogen continues to reign. And attempting to maintain balance between looking forward, searching for clarity in an ever increasingly cloudy future, all the while, being weighed down by the here and the now. But as I often told her, it was my great pleasure to take care of her. To be by her side, while time without remorse or regret, continued to tick by. And when she died, my brothers and sisters and grandkids that knew her, could find peace and calm, that she knew we loved her, even as the cruel imagined voices of dementia, did all they could to turn love against her. But that would never come to pass, because for nearly six decades – brick by brick – she created and nurtured an indestructible family bond.

For most of my years, my efforts and ambitions, thoughts and energies, were concentrated solely on self on how I played to the the whole wide world. But for this moment, I will not be transfixed on the ride, but rather the outcome of a monumental election, that means everything – to half the nation. And while I will continue to follow the safety precautions to hold COVID-19 at bay, I will allot no more time in trying to understand the other side. There is but a small window of time, which I will spend capturing memories to assure my mother’s legacy will not be relegated nor forgotten, nor twisted, nor heightened. But in the remembrance as who she was and what she meant, and no matter the stumbles nor victories, she will always remain in memory: a God-fearing woman, a driven survivor and a fiercely committed mother… until the day she died.

Long live the Queen. The Queen is dead.’ (I finally understand what the expressions means)

 R.I.P. Mom and take a bow


What it our legacy is revealed only through the memory of others?


NOTE: A very personal invite to friends & family and to the people whose lives passed through hers; or even a memory about your Mom, that you wish to share in a VideoMemory collage with mine: ALL GOOD. Simply click on Youtube logo above, for quick and easy details on sharing your memories with mine.

18 Comments on “Long Live the Queen. The Queen is Dead

  1. My most heart-felt condolences to you and the family my good man. I lost my mother in 2000, and I was not prepared either. Twenty years later, I dare admit that I am still not. 😊 But I have grieved and moved forward along with the next generation of the family, as I knew she would expect at minimum. It is no small thing at all. But in feeling much like you, knowing that they do not have to deal with all that has threatened the pursuit of happiness and the smooth running of life and family; for that, I am relieved.

    It’s all in our hands now. And I think that they have prepared us well. Prayers and blessings to you and the family. Peace my brother.

    ~Toby and the fam

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  2. When my mom died at 87 in 2010 my immediate feeling was that I was now rootless, and would float away. That she was the only thing that kept me on this planet. It’s a strange feeling. I had a friend who, after his mother died he said to me “it’s really true, mothers die”. That actually helped me deal with the truth of death. And the fact that we can and do live on without them. I loved looking at your mother’s pictures. I don’t feel exactly rootless anymore, but sometimes I still wish I could call her. So our moms never really go away, they are still in our souls.

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  3. I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your Mother. I too lost my Mum this year and watching her fade away, was something that will stay with me forever.

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  4. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
    I still have both my parents…I dread the day I lose one of them.

    Know you are in my thoughts as you learn to cope with this.
    Sending hugs.

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