Redefining Patience

cover photo Patience by Pete B

Patience is not simply the ability to wait –
its how we behave while we’re waiting.
– Joyce Meyer

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PatienceWhen we were all just kids, our parents would often tell us or demand of us, “Patience, we will be there soon.” But even if we were of the age and could tell time, it still had no meaning, like the week before Christmas, which  felt like a torturous month. But each time we asked, “Is Santa here yet?” patience was the word that filled the void of a proactive response. As adults, rather we are counting down the days to our long overdue vacation or for any other joyous pursuits, we often consider  patience, as our only consolation

But patience has a darker side, sinister for its ability to hide, clever in its disguise, fooling us into believing, it is an attribute – that as an adult is no longer of good use – so we follow the drumbeat of Right Now, then years later we wonder how, still left standing at the start..

Do not stop its use… patience

But as we learn and teach ourselves to think bigger thoughts, imagine bigger dreams, and even though, there is a prize we are eyeing, capturing the prize becomes of small favor…. because redefining patience, and understanding the new definition, nourishes our inner peace  – minimizing the need of instant gratification for the  individual self.

Redefining patience, should be demonstrated in its use when spoken to our youth, “Be patient, here’s a good book,” or  “Why don’t we draw,” so that they learn at an early age, that patience is not doing nothing, but actually taking steps to doing something great.

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33 comments

  1. Reblogged this on sherriemiranda1 and commented:
    I saved Kendall’s post until I returned home and could read it slowly and breath it in, and remember all those years when I had so little patience, I seldom finished anything I started. I also got involved with people (both as friends AND in relationships) that were totally wrong for me in my rush to make friends and not be alone.
    When I had a problem, I felt like it was the worst thing in the world & walked around crying for days, I suppose, waiting for someone to save me.
    But I started turning that around about 11 years ago, and finally getting my MFA in Creative Writing was a huge breakthrough, especially because I finished it with a 4.0. And finally, in February of this year, my novel that had been in my head for thirty-some years was getting published.
    I have learned a lot about patience from my teacher/musician husband. He has waited more than 30 years to be able to call himself a musician (& only a musician) and will soon be able to do that.
    He also had the sense not to rush into marriage and regret it later. Between teaching and music, he had very little time for other activities.
    So, even though I am still on this road of learning patience and not pushing things to happen too soon, or maybe ever, I feel good about how far I’ve come. I will keep this in mind as I continue on in this life and remember that THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE TAKE TIME TO HAPPEN.
    Peace & love to all,
    Sherrie

  2. Love the part where you mention waiting for the long overdue vacation. Haven’t had one in 2 years (and a very short one before). How about you guys? What does “long overdue” mean to you?
    P.S. I think it was Confucius who said that if you do what you love, you won’t have to work a day in your life. This happens to be my case, thank God, but still . . . There are days I just want to lie in the sun and read. So patience, hm? But what if I’m too old when I can finally take that day off and lie in the sun with a good psycho-thriller?

  3. “Redefining patience, should be demonstrated in its use when spoken to our youth, “Be patient, here’s a good book,” or “Why don’t we draw,” so that they learn at an early age, that patience is not doing nothing, but actually taking steps to something great.”

    > This is a much better way of perceiving patience. As some other neighbors in the neighborhood have reiterated the long-standing idiom “patience is a virtue,” it evokes the thought that the youth, rarely know the meaning of a virtue. How can The Neighborhood both help shift the paradigm on patience and help increase the understanding of what a virtue is and how you obtain them? I think this is a great question to ask and answer for a future show. What about you?

  4. Thank you for the article. I once ask for patience and what I got was a situation that demanded patience for 13 years. At the time, I kept thinking “be careful what you ask for – you just might get it” and I did. Now I see that this was actually a gift. Patience is a major part of life now and I am grateful for that.

  5. I think a lot of answers are written in Stephen Covey’s “The 7 habits of highly effective people” – being proactive and living your values plus patience/faith can add a great value to our and our children’s world I think 🙂

  6. Sometimes I really wish to be more patient, when things don’t develop in my sense of speed. Which might be a sign of lacking confidence and trust. But on the other hand it is totally OK. Because impatience was it that brought me to the point I am today! I don’t wanna be somewhere else and I won’t stop keeping it up that way! Great post!

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